Be A Better You!
–McGinnis Goal is not to make lazy people industrious–it can’t be done Rather to channel energies of energetic people There must be an inner drive already there Not manipulation, but persuasion to work in own best interest Find goals good for all and develop a “partnership” Success depends more on leadership than hard work […]
–Dale Carnegie [Note: When I taught negotiation I said that you frequently can either get what makes you feel good or you can get what you want. Ego is the problem. To get what you want, ego must be subordinated, which requires humility and sound self esteem. Carnegie’s famous bookHOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND […]
John Gottman Book is based on empirical data from studies of 2000 marriages Found much conventional wisdom is wrong Similarities do not safeguard against divorce Conflict does not necessarily lead to divorce Anger is not a negative! It is necessary to a healthy marriage It is how it is handled, not its existence. Value the […]
— Phil McGraw 1: You either “get it” or you don’t. Be honest with yourself 2: You create your own experience. Take responsibility 3: People do what works. Look for the payoffs, for self, others 4: You can’t change what you won’t admit. Face reality 5: Life rewards action. [Ready, fire, aim!] 6: […]
–Stephen R. Covey Even many who have great outward success feel like–and are–failures. It shows in their relationships with themselves and with others. They are deeply unhappy, even as they seem to enjoy success. During the past 50 years there has been an emphasis on the “personality ethic”: public image, social consciousness, techniques for success, […]
–Napoleon Hill The Key There is a key to success in any activity It has been studied in hundreds of people It must be intentionally sought Its use will sweep one to success It comes in two parts It is not: Ideas, aspirations, P.M.A., self-suggestion, intelligence, knowledge, persistence, etc. It is: 1] An innate desire […]
THE ART OF SELF DISCIPLINE -Paul A Hauck Preface: This is the last in a series of four books: 1. Depression: Usually results from self-blame, self-pity, other-pity 2. Hostility: Frustration and anger from a] I must have my own way b] People are bad and don’t give me what I want 3. Fear: Apprehension and […]
–Maltz Self Image Mental picture of self–most unconsciously formed All actions, beliefs, abilities consistent with despite conscious effort or will power It can be changed Determined by identification with successes or failures Must have adequate and realistic self-image Must be a reasonable basis for a good self image Cybernetics Subconscious “mind” is not a mind […]
–McGinnis If you follow the following principles, you will always be mentally healthy and functional, and you will never need a psychologist. “TOUGH-MINDED OPTIMISM” Realistic acceptance of reality, combined with hope As effective as psychotherapy, if no major depression Pessimism leads to cynicism: no faith so no effort Comparison with other self-help philosophies: […]
–Helmstetter Manage your choices The end result of your life is the sum of all your choices If you manage your choices, you will manage your life Learning what and how to choose is most important Choose: Faith, strength, honesty, belief in self, optimism, love, goals and directions, to accept others, to make own […]